As you scroll through this page my hope is for you to come to know two things:
1) Who I am as a person. I believe that who we choose to do business with and where we invest our money is a reflection of ourselves and our values. You deserve to know the kind of person you’re considering working with.
2) I hope you feel seen and known and safe and welcomed here. My weird and different is a part of my magic and so is yours.
What I am—
Coach. Creative. Dreamer.
Ultra passionate about—
Women. Self-Connection. Serving Others.
You can find me—
Drinking coffee. Outdoors. Snuggling my pup, Sage.
I believe in—
Living Boldly. Learning Always. Magic, of all kinds.
What I Do
& Why I Do It
I believe so profoundly in owning the magic of who you are and cultivating a relationship with yourself because I used to be a person who had practically no self-worth and no sense of who I was… and it was a really painful way to live. I spent years trying to unlearn programming, learn to do things differently, work through my stories and beliefs, and figure out who TF I was on my own before I worked with my first coach and the difference was staggering. I made progress in my personal work, but I found it really difficult to keep the old stories from resurfacing and to not doubt myself when I was doing it all alone. It was through coaching (and to be fully transparent, also therapy) that I was finally able to really make significant and lasting changes in my life.
Now I support other humans as they journey to uncover their true selves and fully embrace all that they are and all that they desire to be, and let me tell you, it’s the privilege of my life to do this work.
If you’re anything like me right about now you’re saying cool, cool, that sounds great and all, but how do I really KNOW you’ll get me? How do I know you can REALLY support me through this?
The website experts say not to get “too” personal on your about page, but y’all I’ve always been a rebel (and if you’re here thinking about working with me, you probably have a little rebel in you, too). I want to share a little more of my story with you because I want you to know that I can hold space for your experiences because I’ve done it for myself first.
The turning point that started me on my journey towards reconnecting to myself? I was married and we were a year into exploring polyamory. I didn’t even know that I had relationship wounds or how much I outsourced my self-worth until that experience. I was also so disconnected from my body and my inner knowing that I had no clue I was actually gay. Yep, talk about a staggering lack of self-connection.
I knew I was queer; I came out as bisexual in college, but I was raised Catholic, living in the South in the US, and it would be a decade before I learned that comp-het (compulsory heterosexuality) existed. Over the next two years, I struggled through my journey alone. In 2019 I started therapy and later that year I discovered coaching. Of course I had heard of a life coach, but I didn’t actually know what they did until then. That was also when I began to have an inkling that I might like to be a coach, but my self-worth was still too low at that point to believe anyone would want to work with ME. After all, my life was, well, a bit of a mess. (Spoiler alert: messiness is allowed. Messiness is HUMAN.)
I find it challenging to fully describe the level of internal processing and mental shifts that took place for me throughout 2020. I finally admitted out loud that I was gay. I experienced so much grief and heartache and guilt. The progress I had made on my self-worth shattered. I felt like the worst human being on the planet for “ruining my marriage.” I was convinced I wasn’t going to survive our divorce. (All while living through a worldwide pandemic.) AND. As that year came to a close I found myself reaching deep for every ounce of grit I had as I began to own that I had power in my own life. In a leap of faith that defied my level of self-belief at that time I enrolled in Beautiful You Coaching Academy the same month I moved out.
Coming out and getting divorced in my thirties felt like so much freedom it was actually paralyzing for a time. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted. The one thing I did know is that I had fallen in love with coaching both as a practitioner and client and it would (and does) continue to transform my life.
The first week of 2023 I moved from NC to Maine. A whole new set of challenges arise when you’re taking on a new city, new jobs, and new people. Slowly I began to piece together who I know myself to be, how I want to live my life, and how to find joy in my new life as a solo human.
I have been to the depths of self-hatred and despair and clawed my way back to the surface. I have looked in the mirror and felt like a stranger was looking back, and I have found a way to tenderly love the woman looking back at me. I know what it feels like to feel alone, to feel like you don’t belong anywhere, to feel like you’re too different and too weird and too much. And I know how it feels to embrace what makes you different, and to own your muchness, and to believe in yourself so fiercely. I see you. I get you. You belong here. I would be honored to walk beside you on your own journey home to yourself.
If you want to read more about my experience Coming Out in my 30s, check out my e-book: WLWs That Bloom in The Dark (a Survival Guide for Queer Women Coming Out After 30).
other stuff you may want to know
I am AuDHD (that’s autistic + ADHD). I am a Pisces Sun, Sagittarius Moon, & Capricorn Rising (gotta include this for the sapphic girlies). I am an Artist, predominantly a painter. I still make art and sometimes sell it here. Food is my love language and cooking and baking for my friends is a staple in my life. Coffee is also a part of that love language. If you gift me a latte, I will love you to the moon and back. Speaking of, I love the moon and my business name used to be Kassy Moon. When I took my Nana’s last name in early 2024, I decided I want to infuse the magic of my Irish ancestry into my business and have it share my name: Kassy Hughes.
meet sage
Sage is my floofy BFF and because GSDs are quite nosy, she is inevitably a part of my business as well. She is 70% German Shepherd, 20% White Swiss Shepherd, 10% Australian Cattle Dog, and 100% the greatest joy of my life. She sometimes pops up in the background when I’m on Zoom, and occasionally lends her voice to the conversation. (Much to my dismay, she’s a very loud girl.)
Sage was named for the herb because I just knew from the moment I first held her that she would be a healing presence in my life. Everyone who meets her falls in love with her. If she pops up during a session, please know she is sharing her loving, goofy, healing energy with you.
At the heart of my work is the deep desire for every soul to know how inspiring, beautiful, and powerful you are when you embrace your whole self. How each of us has our own unique magic within us and how when we discover it, embrace it, and step into the fullness of its power—our potential is limitless.
It takes effort and energy to peel back the layers of life and conditioning that keeps us from knowing and being our truest self. It takes developing self-compassion and building a relationship with yourself founded on self-trust and inner wisdom. It takes radical acceptance of what is and is not within your control. It takes the desire to release the weight of what we’ve been taught we should do and be and the bravery to be who you truly desire to be regardless of external forces.
That’s the work that I do. I walk beside you through the depths of this discovery process. I support you as you peel back the layers that are extra heavy and sticky and messy. I hold your hand as you face the dark, shadowy corners of this work. I cheer you on and hype you up every step of the way. I want you to emerge on the other side feeling the power of your magic and the lightness and ease that comes with walking through the world knowing who you are and knowing you’ve got yourself every step of the way.